Last week, like most iPhone users, I updated my phone to the new operating system. The feature that I was most excited about on this update was the “Do Not Disturb” option. You can turn this on whenever you want, or program it to come on at a certain time, and no one can get through to you. Although, you can set it up so that your “favorites” list can get through even if the feature is activated.
But this got me thinking…there are a lot of people I would put on my “favorites” list. You know, those people that you call pretty regularly and don’t want to have to go searching for their number. But I definitely didn’t want all of those people calling me at three in the morning. My “favorites” list was going to have to take on a different meaning.
These are the people that can call me any time of the day and I will pick up. Not because I feel an obligation to pick up, but because I am trying to build that kind of relationship with them. A kind of intimacy that only comes from a feeling of safety and acceptance, no matter what. These are the people that are investing into me and that I am pouring my life into.
I am the kind of person that tends to isolate and keep to myself. Not because I don’t like people, but I’m just introverted. I like to be alone and get things done on my own. But life cannot be done alone. You have to be known fully by some people.
So I would challenge you to make your own list. Who are the people that have full access to you? Who are the people that are pouring into your life? Who are the people that you are pouring your life into? This should not be a long list. We can’t be all things to all people. Who are the exceptions to your “Do Not Disturb?”
Here is mine right now (it will change with different seasons of life I’m sure):
Mom, Dad, Leah, Jennie– My family. These people get all access. My sisters are also the keepers of my nieces and nephews, and they get all access…they just don’t have phones.
Lo– A great, long-time friend who knows everything about me and understands me. She knows all of the in’s and out’s and loves me anyway.
Allie, Allison, and Hannah– three 16 year old girls that God has given me the great privilege of knowing. They have expanded my heart this year in more ways that I could have ever thought possible. God has taught me a lot of lessons in my life and it’s important to give back to people. So, what I have is theirs. Absolutely any hour of the day.